"Good people are hard to find these days." I've always tried to keep faith in people but as I get older, that faith is slowly starting to fade. I've always been the type of person to put others' needs before mine, but I'm contemplating whether that should be something I change to protect myself.
It sucks because I notice people around me who don't have half the integrity or character that I work so hard maintain, enjoying success and living the life. I'm not saying that I haven't enjoyed success and I'm not happy, but shouldn't it be easier for guys like me? Or should I just start looking out for my own self interest and not worry about others? Maybe then I'll enjoy more success.
It's funny because when someone is needing something from me, they're always around, but when the roles are reversed, that same person is no where to be found. I've helped a lot of people with no questions asked and without asking for anything in return, but very rarely do people reciprocate unless they have something in it for them. Maybe I shouldn't extend myself as much as I do all of time. It just makes me wonder sometimes if nice guys really do finish last.
Tuesday, January 8, 2008
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First off...it's great to hear you neg'n out...but I've got to attempt to help you redirect your perspective.
Let’s look at life as a race. There are people with all different directions…and with all different speeds.
Now, I read your vent three-fold…so let’s say that there are three speeds.
Speed one is the people in front of you. You see what they have and desire it enough for it to give you wind under your feet. However, as you see them ahead of you you’re observing some that took shortcuts or cheated to get that level. Where’s the ref??? Why isn’t he making the call to stop the shenanigans??? Well, trust me; karma will catch their faulty foot eventually. Take your eyes off of them. Focus on those that follow the right path and do things the right way…let them motivate and mentor you. Keep on moving.
Speed two is the people beside you. These are your peers…these are people that have faced similar trials and tribulations to get to the level you share. Maybe you put forth extra effort on your end to get them there. The simple act of appreciation is justifiably expected. Unfortunately most can’t see past their own nose. Remember that you’ve done your part…they will fall into the level that they were meant to be at eventually with or without your help. Focus on those that do walk with you and hold your hand and never let you falter. Keep on moving.
Speed three is the people behind you. There are some that are staring at your back trying to think of ways to knock you down. They’ll try to take everything they can…your dreams…your desire…just so they can get ahead. Show them that you are unstoppable. Focus on those that look up to you and admire you…mentor them to succeed...help guide them along the right path. Keep on moving.
We all get into the “me against the world” arena of emotions. Because isn’t it the easier thing to focus on the negatives enough to let it tear you down??? But listen to me Jay…you were born to be an exception…and are stronger than that. Stay positive. Focus. Keep on moving.
Always holding your hand,
Lizzy
i dont know u like that,shit, we never met, but you help me out BIG time,all the time, no doubt, and if you ever need anything, anything, im down to ride. anything homie, i got you. and what we talked bout last night? look at what you accomplished so far, not only for me, but for a lot of people. and u just gettin started!! good guys dont finish last, we just dont brag about it in the limelight. holla at ya boy, sweden got ya. one!
I hear you on that note...it's like the good people always seem to finish last, as you said....I feel like that too...it sucks...especially for me being a single parent and just trying to survive in this world...It's like I can't seem to catch a break. You give, give, give- and sure you don't expect anything in return, but when you're the one that needs help....where are those that you have helped at? No where to be found- they are only around when they want something- ignoring your phone calls or text messages. As much as it bugs....I just tell myself to keep your head up and don't give up....because what goes around, comes around and what ever you dish out you better be ready for any consequences that comes with it. It's funny because I remember the last time I was in San Diego, your brother asked me, "Why do I always have to be so good?"....It's not about always having to be good, to me it's about choosing to do the right thing and feeling good about that....
I like it..great song by Jack Johnson too.
I am at the same crossroads in life..you learn that in the end there will probably be only a few people you really consider friends, and those are the ones you should strive take care of... sucks but true.
Wussup Jay. After reading your blog post on where all the good people are, you can be sure they'll find their way to you. From the few blog posts of yours I read, you have good energy, and all who do are magnets for good things, good people, and great life. Sometimes our perspective is limited. So when I see people who seem as though they are living the perfect life, I try not to be easily convinced. My dream is to become wealthy so I can help others, particularly impoverished people in the third world and developing countries; people who haven't had opportunity, purely because of circumstance. Like what you do with Interfaith. To me, the Warren Buffets and Bill Gates' of the world are successful, not solely bc. of their wealth, but because they are giving almost all of it away to the poor, to medical research for the developing world, and for the benefit of others. In doing so they realize real happiness. The Mother Theresa's, Princess Diana's of the world, and all those who dedicate their lives to not only being happy themselves, but making life enjoyable for the less fortunate.
So what is living the life if you enjoy every luxury life has to offer, while there are those who have so little to eat that their circumstance starves even their ability to dream? And in this world, real success is helping our friends, families, and even enemies, realize happiness. I think it's that the people we help just don't see the sadness and harm that their inaction or inability to repay favor does to others. Perspective is everything.
Even those people who you have helped, who don't seem to be there for you when you need them, I think, are helping you. I think so, because the good that you create, the energy that you put out into the world, the karma that you build up as a result of helping those very people, is working to help you realize your dreams. So whether those same people come back to you with help when you ask it of them, doesn't matter so much. You are creating it for yourself. So keep doing what you do bro., bc it's not in vein. Keep helping those people, the children of Interfaith, and more, and I'm positive you will realize that life you hope for, beyond the success you already have.
Good luck with Unifik, the blog, and God Bless kid.
-Dre..
we r all still around ...you might have forgotten about the good ones by hangin' around the selfish jack asses...
let me know when u and missy are down to chill ...i'm thinking of having a little get together soon and i expect to see the both of u there! ;OP
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